Someone I know confessed that she has been having doubts about being an active member of an organization.

The other members of the organization still wished to give her a large leadership role in the organization, in the hope that "this will reinforce her interest in the group instead of turning her away from it". (It is implied that her turning away was "uncalled for").

I was the only one who opposed their decision, for I wanted her to actually make the choice herself: as in give her time to choose what she wanted without being compelled to be a part of any group.

I strongly feel that desire to do something should come from the heart. One has to be aware of all their options before making a choice. This person must be allowed to see for herself about what the absence of being involved in the organization would do to her. Whether it stregnthens her bond towards it or breaks it, at least she is given the right to make a choice.

This is consistent with Milton's argument in Areopagitica. Virtue is not virtue unless it is tested with vice. We are given free will and we must choose our inherent virtue or otherwise it will remain uncultivated.

(ETA: By vice I mean challenge and self-interrogation. This post is not meant to advocate for Satanic or rude behaviour.)